Tag: (this is more or less also how I feel about race)

brahmsfifth:

beranyth:

PSA

Never say someone is “functionally [orientation]”

if you have to say functionally that probably means that they don’t identify that way, themselves, but you’re going to link them to that anyway

no no nope no

Identifying as a particular orientation should always, always be grounded in a person’s agency and what they feel comfortable with and what they want to describe themselves as

coming along and saying “well you don’t call yourself that but I’m still going to give you this label because you match my description of it” denies this agency and is super gross please don’t do it

YES thank you